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Here are answers to some commonly asked questions about my book, “NO GIRLS 4 U: The ULTIMATE Guide to LOSING the Girl of Your Dreams!” For more info about the contents of the book, click HERE!
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Here are answers to some commonly asked questions about my book, “NO GIRLS 4 U: The ULTIMATE Guide to LOSING the Girl of Your Dreams!” For more info about the contents of the book, click HERE!
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Q: What exactly is a NON JUAN?
A: Simply stated, a NON JUAN is a man who, consciously or subconsciously, knows how to make girls feel uncomfortable; less attracted to him; and makes them want to reject him first.
Ironically, he does this by doing things he thinks should attract women, based on advice he’s gotten from women’s magazines and other so-called “dating guru’s;” yet, he’s a NON JUAN because he continues doing these things despite his low relationship success rate.
Q: Why release a “dating” book for men on how to “LOSE” women?
A: Every dating book or article released up to this point tries to show a guy how to attract women. Very few of them, however, explain why his current techniques aren’t working.
In order for a man to change, he has to first understand, psychologically, why his way of doing something isn’t working so he’ll be open to learning different techniques.
“NO GIRLS 4 U: The ULTIMATE Guide to LOSING the Girl of Your Dreams” goes into detail on why all the “logical” techniques a man uses to get women, actually ends up driving them away. I use the angle of teaching men how to “lose” women as a means of demonstrating why what they think should work has yet to do so.
Q: You say if a guy really wants
to be a NON JUAN, he should follow the advice of women dating “experts.” Are
you saying women give bad dating advice?
A: It’s not that the advice women give is bad; it just doesn’t work.
A woman will give a man advice that, on paper, sounds quite logical. She might tell a guy to compliment a woman throughout a first date, or buy her flowers. The problem is these things don’t make a girl more attracted to a guy, and can actually make her less attracted.
Women columnists forget that their dating choices are usually not based on FACTUAL logic (i.e. what should work), but on EMOTIONAL logic (i.e. what does work). Most guys work on factual logic, which is why they think the advice they’re receiving from women columnists should work – after all, if a woman is the one giving the advice, it MUST be the golden ticket to Relationshipville, right?
Sadly, this often turns out to NOT be the case.
Q: In your book as well as your newsletters, you include many personal stories from your dating life to illustrate how a NON JUAN should act. If you were so bad at dating, why should a guy read your materials?
A: Like many guys, I got my dating advice from what I thought were the “right” sources. After years of not getting women (or having sex), I decided a change in dating resources was necessary.
I read columns and dating books for men – by men – that gave advice different from what I’d read before. “Don’t over-compliment a woman on the first date;” “Wait 5 to 9 days to call a woman” – all these things sounded crazy at first… until I actually tried them and started keeping women interested in me for longer periods of time.
Through these various new sources, I was not only able to figure out what really DID work on women, but also look back and understand why the advice I’d gotten before hadn’t worked. My book gives men a thorough analysis of what doesn’t work so they’ll stop doing those things when trying to attract women.
A: It’s not that the advice women give is bad; it just doesn’t work.
A woman will give a man advice that, on paper, sounds quite logical. She might tell a guy to compliment a woman throughout a first date, or buy her flowers. The problem is these things don’t make a girl more attracted to a guy, and can actually make her less attracted.
Women columnists forget that their dating choices are usually not based on FACTUAL logic (i.e. what should work), but on EMOTIONAL logic (i.e. what does work). Most guys work on factual logic, which is why they think the advice they’re receiving from women columnists should work – after all, if a woman is the one giving the advice, it MUST be the golden ticket to Relationshipville, right?
Sadly, this often turns out to NOT be the case.
Q: In your book as well as your newsletters, you include many personal stories from your dating life to illustrate how a NON JUAN should act. If you were so bad at dating, why should a guy read your materials?
A: Like many guys, I got my dating advice from what I thought were the “right” sources. After years of not getting women (or having sex), I decided a change in dating resources was necessary.
I read columns and dating books for men – by men – that gave advice different from what I’d read before. “Don’t over-compliment a woman on the first date;” “Wait 5 to 9 days to call a woman” – all these things sounded crazy at first… until I actually tried them and started keeping women interested in me for longer periods of time.
Through these various new sources, I was not only able to figure out what really DID work on women, but also look back and understand why the advice I’d gotten before hadn’t worked. My book gives men a thorough analysis of what doesn’t work so they’ll stop doing those things when trying to attract women.
Q: Why is it a “good” idea for a NON JUAN to
be a “nice guy?”
A: A “nice guy” – or what I call a “NON JUAN in disguise” – is a man who tries to get close to a girl he likes by doing everything he can to appear nice, non-sexual, and perfect at all times. Women, however, can subconsciously sense when a man is acting a certain way simply to please her, and not because he really IS that way.
A “nice guy” is worse than a so-called “jerk” or “bad boy” because, unlike those types of guys, he is not being honest about himself or his true intentions with a girl. This is why a girl will date a “bad-boy” vs. a “nice guy” – and a “nice guy” who can’t get women is, by definition, a NON JUAN!
Q: You also mention that a NON JUAN should pay for everything on a date. How will this prevent a woman from staying interested in a guy?
A: The amount of money a guy spends on a date demonstrates his level of desperation. The more money he spends, the more desperate for love and affection he seems to a woman. In essence, he’s using the money to keep her around because he wants her to like him, but doesn’t think his personality is enough to do the job.
Were he to spend less money, he’d have to actually win a girl over with his personality – but a NON JUAN doesn’t do that! As such, women don’t stay with guys that seem desperate for affection because it puts too much pressure on them – unless they’re gold diggers, who still have no interest but will stick around until the bank well runs dry!
Q: How does sex play into the life of a NON JUAN?
A: Easy – it doesn’t!
Q: Um… would you care to elaborate on that?
A: A NON JUAN always denies that he wants sex, especially when talking to a girl he’s after. Therefore, he shouldn’t be chasing after sex since he’s not expressing a desire to have any.
If, per chance, a woman tries to pursue sex with him, he should be so accustomed to NOT getting it, he’s able to bypass or ignore any signals she throws his way that indicate her desires.
A: A “nice guy” – or what I call a “NON JUAN in disguise” – is a man who tries to get close to a girl he likes by doing everything he can to appear nice, non-sexual, and perfect at all times. Women, however, can subconsciously sense when a man is acting a certain way simply to please her, and not because he really IS that way.
A “nice guy” is worse than a so-called “jerk” or “bad boy” because, unlike those types of guys, he is not being honest about himself or his true intentions with a girl. This is why a girl will date a “bad-boy” vs. a “nice guy” – and a “nice guy” who can’t get women is, by definition, a NON JUAN!
Q: You also mention that a NON JUAN should pay for everything on a date. How will this prevent a woman from staying interested in a guy?
A: The amount of money a guy spends on a date demonstrates his level of desperation. The more money he spends, the more desperate for love and affection he seems to a woman. In essence, he’s using the money to keep her around because he wants her to like him, but doesn’t think his personality is enough to do the job.
Were he to spend less money, he’d have to actually win a girl over with his personality – but a NON JUAN doesn’t do that! As such, women don’t stay with guys that seem desperate for affection because it puts too much pressure on them – unless they’re gold diggers, who still have no interest but will stick around until the bank well runs dry!
Q: How does sex play into the life of a NON JUAN?
A: Easy – it doesn’t!
Q: Um… would you care to elaborate on that?
A: A NON JUAN always denies that he wants sex, especially when talking to a girl he’s after. Therefore, he shouldn’t be chasing after sex since he’s not expressing a desire to have any.
If, per chance, a woman tries to pursue sex with him, he should be so accustomed to NOT getting it, he’s able to bypass or ignore any signals she throws his way that indicate her desires.
Q: Explain the difference between “The Land of NON JUAN Fiction” and “Relationship Reality.”
A: “The Land of NON JUAN Fiction” is where most guys live right now. It’s the land where buying a girl dinner, calling her all the time, and being a “nice guy” will make the women they’re after fall in love with them instantly. Unfortunately, living in this land causes plenty of heartache for guys, who never understand why these things don’t work.
“Relationship Reality” is the place where doing the opposite of what should work – i.e. not paying for everything, calling a girl every few days or so, and being true to oneself, be it “nice,” “bad,” or a mixture of both” – will actually keep a woman around much longer. It’s the place I steer guys towards living in throughout the course of my book.
Q: Most dating books by & for men are written by guys who (a) have a track record of being good with the opposite sex, and (b) guarantee similar results to their readers. What results can you guarantee if guys read your book on how to LOSE women?
A: I can guarantee a few things:
(1) That men will get a kick out of reading my personal “horror” stories from my dating life and seeing how it relates to their own;
(2) That the techniques talked about in my book do make girls less attracted to them; and
(3) That they will finally be able to understand why all the things they learned about how to make girls like them do NOT worked.
This is a LIFE-CHANGING book with LIFE-CHANGING information.
A guy who studies my book regularly – at least 1 to 2 times a week for 3 months to a year - will no longer be in the dark about why his past ways of dealing with girls did NOT work.
He’ll also save hundreds, or even THOUSANDS, of dollars by not chasing after uninterested girls anymore, or spending excessive monies on dinners, gifts, cards, etc. then pondering why it didn’t work. Having that kind of information – the kind I wish I had when I was making all these dating screw-ups – is PRICELESS.
Q: How have men and/or women responded to your book so far?
A: The response has been phenomenal! I sent out evaluation copies to both men and women prior to releasing it, and both sexes agreed that NO GIRLS 4 U: THE ULTIMATE GUIDE TO LOSING THE GIRL OF YOUR DREAMS does a great job of dismantling the stereotypical techniques guys use to attract women. (To read book testimonials from people who actually BOUGHT the book, click HERE!)
A: “The Land of NON JUAN Fiction” is where most guys live right now. It’s the land where buying a girl dinner, calling her all the time, and being a “nice guy” will make the women they’re after fall in love with them instantly. Unfortunately, living in this land causes plenty of heartache for guys, who never understand why these things don’t work.
“Relationship Reality” is the place where doing the opposite of what should work – i.e. not paying for everything, calling a girl every few days or so, and being true to oneself, be it “nice,” “bad,” or a mixture of both” – will actually keep a woman around much longer. It’s the place I steer guys towards living in throughout the course of my book.
Q: Most dating books by & for men are written by guys who (a) have a track record of being good with the opposite sex, and (b) guarantee similar results to their readers. What results can you guarantee if guys read your book on how to LOSE women?
A: I can guarantee a few things:
(1) That men will get a kick out of reading my personal “horror” stories from my dating life and seeing how it relates to their own;
(2) That the techniques talked about in my book do make girls less attracted to them; and
(3) That they will finally be able to understand why all the things they learned about how to make girls like them do NOT worked.
This is a LIFE-CHANGING book with LIFE-CHANGING information.
A guy who studies my book regularly – at least 1 to 2 times a week for 3 months to a year - will no longer be in the dark about why his past ways of dealing with girls did NOT work.
He’ll also save hundreds, or even THOUSANDS, of dollars by not chasing after uninterested girls anymore, or spending excessive monies on dinners, gifts, cards, etc. then pondering why it didn’t work. Having that kind of information – the kind I wish I had when I was making all these dating screw-ups – is PRICELESS.
Q: How have men and/or women responded to your book so far?
A: The response has been phenomenal! I sent out evaluation copies to both men and women prior to releasing it, and both sexes agreed that NO GIRLS 4 U: THE ULTIMATE GUIDE TO LOSING THE GIRL OF YOUR DREAMS does a great job of dismantling the stereotypical techniques guys use to attract women. (To read book testimonials from people who actually BOUGHT the book, click HERE!)
