WHY/HOW I GIVE DATING ADVICE TO MEN
THE “WHY”
Some of you may think I’m in this whole “dating guru” thing to make money. And to some degree, you’d be right – after all, I AM selling a book on this site.
However, that’s not my main motivation.
Years ago – when I was 9 years old – I had a major life-altering event take place: the passing of my father.
Those of you who have either lost a parent, or had one who wasn’t around much growing up, know how much of an impact that can have on one’s life. It’s even WORSE, though, when it’s a parent of the same gender – the one who is supposed to coach you through your adolescent years and teach you the things you, as a man, should know.
As a result of my Dad not being around, there were a LOT of things I didn’t get to learn early on. Unfortunately, one of those things was being taught how to deal with women in the dating world.
And so, I spent years and years and YEARS having to figure out this whole "dating" thing by myself.
For the first 8 years (starting at age 13) I was absolutely HORRIBLE at dating. I go into more detail in the “Intro” section in my book, “No Girls 4 U: The Ultimate Guide to LOSING the Girl of Your Dreams,” but suffice to say, the things I was doing/saying/buying/etc. to get girls attracted to me was NOT working.
It wasn’t until I was able to (a) confront my ego, (b) realize that my way of doing things in the dating game was NOT getting me the desired results, and (c) gain an understanding of the “WHY” behind my negative dating results… that I was able to make a change for the better.
Nowadays, dating for me is very, VERY easy. I can tell when girls like me, when it’s time for me to make a move, and escalate things with girls that get me positive results.
However, I still see guys out there that are struggling with girls. They make some of the mistakes I used to make (as well as a few ones I’ve never even seen before), and are constantly having the girl of their dreams slip out of their grasp.
And, much like I used to, these guys blame these losses on the girls – “Oh, she just likes bad boys;” “All girls are just crazy – they make no sense!” – instead of thinking that maybe – just maybe – there is a LOGICAL reasoning behind why their techniques and/or the things they’ve been taught SHOULD work, actually do NOT.
So, that’s what I’ve made my mission in life: to help guys with their dating lives by showing them what NOT to do, and the reason those things don’t psychologically work on girls. Sounds pretty simple, but the explanations are quite deep, detailed and – in the end – more logical than guys would have assumed.
Some of you may think I’m in this whole “dating guru” thing to make money. And to some degree, you’d be right – after all, I AM selling a book on this site.
However, that’s not my main motivation.
Years ago – when I was 9 years old – I had a major life-altering event take place: the passing of my father.
Those of you who have either lost a parent, or had one who wasn’t around much growing up, know how much of an impact that can have on one’s life. It’s even WORSE, though, when it’s a parent of the same gender – the one who is supposed to coach you through your adolescent years and teach you the things you, as a man, should know.
As a result of my Dad not being around, there were a LOT of things I didn’t get to learn early on. Unfortunately, one of those things was being taught how to deal with women in the dating world.
And so, I spent years and years and YEARS having to figure out this whole "dating" thing by myself.
For the first 8 years (starting at age 13) I was absolutely HORRIBLE at dating. I go into more detail in the “Intro” section in my book, “No Girls 4 U: The Ultimate Guide to LOSING the Girl of Your Dreams,” but suffice to say, the things I was doing/saying/buying/etc. to get girls attracted to me was NOT working.
It wasn’t until I was able to (a) confront my ego, (b) realize that my way of doing things in the dating game was NOT getting me the desired results, and (c) gain an understanding of the “WHY” behind my negative dating results… that I was able to make a change for the better.
Nowadays, dating for me is very, VERY easy. I can tell when girls like me, when it’s time for me to make a move, and escalate things with girls that get me positive results.
However, I still see guys out there that are struggling with girls. They make some of the mistakes I used to make (as well as a few ones I’ve never even seen before), and are constantly having the girl of their dreams slip out of their grasp.
And, much like I used to, these guys blame these losses on the girls – “Oh, she just likes bad boys;” “All girls are just crazy – they make no sense!” – instead of thinking that maybe – just maybe – there is a LOGICAL reasoning behind why their techniques and/or the things they’ve been taught SHOULD work, actually do NOT.
So, that’s what I’ve made my mission in life: to help guys with their dating lives by showing them what NOT to do, and the reason those things don’t psychologically work on girls. Sounds pretty simple, but the explanations are quite deep, detailed and – in the end – more logical than guys would have assumed.
THE “HOW”
I don’t give out advice in the “traditional” way.
Most other dating gurus will encourage you to do certain actions to get a girl (i.e. “If you want her to like you, send her a text message”) along with an explanation on why it will work (i.e. “Sending her a text will remind her that you’re thinking about her!")
What I do is a bit different. As I’ve stated before, the goal of this site is to show guys what NOT to do.
However, I didn’t want to sound BORING while doing it.
For example: let’s say I’m covering the same topic above – texting a girl. Frankly, I think it’s a bad idea to do so. Were I to give advice on the topic, I could say something like this:
“You should not spend all your time texting away at a girl you just met. If you do, she’ll start to think you’re obsessed with her, become freaked out, and stop communicating with you.”
Now, all of that stuff is true… but the way it’s phrased is a little “eh” for my taste.
Plus, most guys take advice a LOT better when it’s mixed in with some humor. That’s why I’ve decided to take a more sarcastic approach when giving out dating tips…
…by encouraging guys to continue doing the WRONG things to LOSE girls!
For example: instead of phrasing my advice like I did above, here’s how I would phrase it instead:
“If you really, REALLY want to lose a girl, do yourself a favor: as soon as you get her number, start texting her RIGHT AWAY! Send her messages continuously throughout the morning, noon, and night, day after day, so she can see just how desperate you are for her attention! That way, she’ll become SO freaked out by you – especially since you two just met and, in her eyes, you’ve already become obsessed with her – she’ll have no choice but to ignore you from now on!”
Same advice as before, but much more humorous and easier on a guy’s ego to listen to!
In all seriousness, though, I hope the advice from my newsletters, blogs, and books, are able to help you guys break some of your bad dating habits.
If you’re not getting the results you want, it’s not all the girl’s fault. Once you are able to understand some of the things you’ve been unknowingly doing wrong – and, more importantly, you start doing the OPPOSITE of some of those things - your dating life will become a LOT more fun.
Best of luck to you, my friend!
- Harry Wilmington
I don’t give out advice in the “traditional” way.
Most other dating gurus will encourage you to do certain actions to get a girl (i.e. “If you want her to like you, send her a text message”) along with an explanation on why it will work (i.e. “Sending her a text will remind her that you’re thinking about her!")
What I do is a bit different. As I’ve stated before, the goal of this site is to show guys what NOT to do.
However, I didn’t want to sound BORING while doing it.
For example: let’s say I’m covering the same topic above – texting a girl. Frankly, I think it’s a bad idea to do so. Were I to give advice on the topic, I could say something like this:
“You should not spend all your time texting away at a girl you just met. If you do, she’ll start to think you’re obsessed with her, become freaked out, and stop communicating with you.”
Now, all of that stuff is true… but the way it’s phrased is a little “eh” for my taste.
Plus, most guys take advice a LOT better when it’s mixed in with some humor. That’s why I’ve decided to take a more sarcastic approach when giving out dating tips…
…by encouraging guys to continue doing the WRONG things to LOSE girls!
For example: instead of phrasing my advice like I did above, here’s how I would phrase it instead:
“If you really, REALLY want to lose a girl, do yourself a favor: as soon as you get her number, start texting her RIGHT AWAY! Send her messages continuously throughout the morning, noon, and night, day after day, so she can see just how desperate you are for her attention! That way, she’ll become SO freaked out by you – especially since you two just met and, in her eyes, you’ve already become obsessed with her – she’ll have no choice but to ignore you from now on!”
Same advice as before, but much more humorous and easier on a guy’s ego to listen to!
In all seriousness, though, I hope the advice from my newsletters, blogs, and books, are able to help you guys break some of your bad dating habits.
If you’re not getting the results you want, it’s not all the girl’s fault. Once you are able to understand some of the things you’ve been unknowingly doing wrong – and, more importantly, you start doing the OPPOSITE of some of those things - your dating life will become a LOT more fun.
Best of luck to you, my friend!
- Harry Wilmington
